I also took it to be judgmental/classist about the urban girls' hypothetical food choices and fast food/hamburgers. And the whole description (as it was described to me afterwards by people who were there) sounded very otherizing of the young black women in a way that made me angry. It seemed so hurtful.

The food part, though, I'm around white PTA moms a lot who say that kind of thing about fast food, hamburgers, or even meat in general and who have a lot of issues wound up in their talk about "healthy choices", race, and class.

Then in talking about it among people who were all pretty angry and hurt and incredulous to the point of head-explody-feeling, to have lots of people feeling bad for Mary, like unable to help imagining her confusion or hurt... and people hoping she would think about it more. That was "instructive"...

I'm glad she thought about it and spoke up to apologize.