Organ donation is always a painful subject, because the donors are mostly people who die suddenly, without the deterioration of long illness (where a family has time to contemplate death and get used to the idea.) When my father died, my mother couldn't bear the thought of donating his organs. She knew about his organ donor card, and "what he used to say he would want," but at the crucial moment she insisted on keeping his body intact a little longer, for the sake of her grief. I was furious. But it was not my decision to make - it was hers.