My body. That's it. Period. Don't even try to argue.
Unless I'm confident that we both know the rules of engagement under which we are both operating, you don't get to touch it, and it's rude to ask about something so intimate.
Honestly, I've seen people whose hair I'd love to stroke - including little kids - and I wouldn't ask about that, either!
Why do people seem to think there's something desirable about collapsing all the possible levels of intimacy? Don't they want to have something special to save for those closest to them? It's a big deal that my friend Kat and my sis-in-law E. feel comfy enough with me that I can reach over and rub their shoulders or play with their hair, and have them do the same. And it should be - they're special people to me. Random guys at a con aren't in the same category - they haven't earned it.
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My body. That's it. Period. Don't even try to argue.
Unless I'm confident that we both know the rules of engagement under which we are both operating, you don't get to touch it, and it's rude to ask about something so intimate.
Honestly, I've seen people whose hair I'd love to stroke - including little kids - and I wouldn't ask about that, either!
Why do people seem to think there's something desirable about collapsing all the possible levels of intimacy? Don't they want to have something special to save for those closest to them? It's a big deal that my friend Kat and my sis-in-law E. feel comfy enough with me that I can reach over and rub their shoulders or play with their hair, and have them do the same. And it should be - they're special people to me. Random guys at a con aren't in the same category - they haven't earned it.