One of mine liked to lie back in the tub and rinse in the water. The other hated having water poured over his head, but liked sticking his head directly under the running water from the spigot. Washcloths over the eyes (head forward) were a fallback, but sometimes involved tears. I tended to do the cleaning part of baths first, and then the fun part of splashing and playing. Shampoo horns were a big part of cleanliness.

Don't offer, don't refuse seems like a reasonable approach to the pacifier right now. Pacifiers are easier to control than thumbs, so if she has a strong suck habit you probably don't want to banish it too quickly. Also, kids vary so much here that you have to pick what works. Does she have a lovey -- this was the age where I started introducing prospective teddy-bear type things. And then went on a world tour where I left the current favored item behind at each stop... (at the cousin's house, the grandpop's house, Yiayia's house, etc.). By the end of the trip I was urging him to bond with a matchbox car for nighttime company.