Yeah... When it comes to sexual attraction I'm maybe like a Kinsey 1; I'm overwhelmingly attracted to women, but I'd be lying if I said I never felt any attraction to men at all. Also, in my life I've had this series of nonsexual male-male friendships that sometimes have had near-romantic levels of emotional intensity. But at the same time I think that if I adopted the "bi" label I'd be a bit of a poser.

But I also grew up as a pro-gay-rights liberal feminist in a very homophobic age, and it made me wary of making a big deal of my straightness and doing the sort of performative "who would I bang" thing with other guys, which combined with general shyness led to people being really puzzled about me. Often I was effectively passing as asexual, and a lot of people undoubtedly assumed I was just a deeply closeted gay dude.

But my being married to a woman now leads to people making a different set of assumptions. Maybe more accurate ones on the whole, but nothing simple is 100% accurate.