Also, thinking this over (and at a big tangent), I think what really gets me enraged about biphobia generally is this bizarre underlying assumption that just because I am okay with my lovers being of any gender, I somehow get a CHOICE about the gender of the person I fall in love with. Like I could have gone, no, I don't want to fall in love with this woman, let me find a man instead so I can pass for straight. Or, no, I don't feel visible queer enough, this time I'm gonna find me a girl to love. Love doesn't work that way for anyone, surely?