It's got an edge of privilege to be sure, in the legal sense where right now where we live, we were able to get married because my birth certificate says "female" and his says "male" - if both of ours said "female" (or "male" for that matter, which might have been a thing if I'd actually pursued medical transition) we'd, well, be living very different lives. But it's also that invisibility is hugely alienating, particularly when it's of the "oh but you're married to a guy so it doesn't really matter" variety, like, that shit hurts.
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Date: 2014-04-03 02:14 am (UTC)